You love your cat to bits and do everything for him
But yet your cat hates you but loves everyone else
Which is weird because you’re the one that does everything for your baby
So if you’re thinking “My cat hates me but loves everyone else” and want your cat to start to love you too
Then you’re going to love this article
Let’s get started!
I Love My Cat But My Furbaby Hates Me And Loves Everyone Else!
Cats are loving and affectionate pet, but they are also known as resilient and “mysterious.”
Although they know how to be affectionate with the person they trust
I know what you’re thinking..
You love your cat unconditionally, but your baby doesn’t share the same feeling
In fact, your cat loves everyone else except you!
Feeling rejected by your cat is not a nice feeling
You try to pet your cat but she keeps running away!
Related article – Why does my cat run away from me?
So you’re thinking
What went wrong?
Is giving your kitty unconditional love, shelter, food, and a whole bunch of toys not enough?
Your cat may not hate you so it’s important to know what the signs are if your cat does hate you
Let’s look at how you can tell if your furbaby hates you
And then we’ll talk about how you can bond with a cat that does not like you
Carry on reading..
How Do You Tell If Your Cat Hates You?
As a cat parent, the last thing you want to do is find out possible reasons your cat may not like you
It’s not a good feeling
But it is important
Because you can then figure out how you can solve the problem and get your cat to love you and build that strong bond
Here are some of the signs you need to look out for
Your cat let others pet them but you!
You try to pet your cat, but your baby just does not let you
Worse, he tries to keep away from you as much as he can.
The worse part?
When you have family and friends over, your cat loves to be petted by them
Heartbreaking – But let’s look at why this is the case
Maybe you are being too pushy with your cat
You’re trying too hard to get your cat to let you pet him/her
Because of this your cat just doesn’t want to know and wants his/her own space
Cats love their space and privacy
Give your cat time and space
Be patience and don’t go overboard
When you see your cat in a calm and relaxed manner then go ahead and pet him/her
Do this a few times and then stop
Let your cat get familiar with you petting him/her
If you notice your cat getting agitated then stop immediately
Do this for a couple of weeks and by the time you know your cat will let you pet him/her anytime!
Don’t be too pushy and do this gradually
They do everything to get away from you.
Every time you try to go near your cat
Your cat just runs away
It’s like as soon as you go near to stroke your cat or just to sit near your baby he/she gets up and just goes away
Again, it comes to their privacy and boundaries
You may not be respecting their boundaries enough.
Cats have a reputation that they are hard to read.
So what’s the solution to this?
You need to do is to give the space your kitty needs.
Here’s what you should do
Give your cat a space in the house where they can go and relax and have some privacy time
You can buy a cat tree and put it in the corner of your house or wherever it’s best where they can go to and just chill
Here’s a awesome cat tree you can get for your kitty
This gives your cat their space that they want
Another thing you can do is provide your cat with a room (if you have a spare room)
You can make it into a cat room where all their stuff is there
For example their cat tree, cat scratching posts, toys etc
Your cat has a place where they can go have privacy
Hopefully showing your cat they have space they will allow you to go near him/her
Again, do this gradually and slowly
If you don’t have a cat tree make sure to check out my article – Best affordable cat trees
Your cat’s tail is low-hanging or puffing.
It is known that tail-puffing means your cat is getting aggressive, scared, or threatened.
Another reason for your cats tail to be low hanging is they don’t want to be around you as they may feel scared or threatened
Cat’s tail tells about their moods and behaviors.
So, you have to be wary of their tail’s movement.
If it goes low and waving slowly from left to right, it means he truly feels uncomfortable and threatened.
Have you done something to your cat that could result in resentment?
Here’s one of the things I learned about cats.
Although they have different personalities, they also feel rejections and disappointments.
For example, a mother cat with a heavy motherly instinct can feel resentment when the owner gives away her kittens even before weaning them.
Or if you are the cat parent that sprays your cat with a water bottle because of their bad behavior – this can make your cat upset with you (It’s not always the case)
If this is the case then it comes down to again, giving your cat space
Don’t try to push your cat to not hate you
Carry on showing love and affection
Play with your cat with maybe a laser so they run after it
When your cat is calm and sleeping stroke your cat so he/she gets used to you stroking him/her
This may take time but your cat will surely come around and love you
Now that we have gone through the possible reasons your cat may not like you
Let’s look at how you can bond with your cat
Get your cat to love you just as you love him/her unconditionally
How To Bond With Your Cat Who Hates You
First and foremost, if your cat is acting aggressive to you and seems to not be himself then it’s best to take your cat to the vets to make sure nothing medically is causing this behavior
However, if there are no underlying health issues, you can still do something to make a special cat-parent relationship.
First, give your cat space and boundary he needs.
I might have repeated this a few times, but this step is crucial.
Let your cat open up with you, rather than you opening up to him.
If you just let your cat be and you know, not being too pushy
With time your cat will notice this and will want to come to you
I remember my cat would not come to me at all!
But with time and conitious spending quality time with Tigger, he’s now a cuddle bug!
You see, time and patience is very important
Not to forget spending quality time with your furbaby
Second, feed your cat on time.
Set up a routine as cats love routine
Make sure your cat has their food on time and get them the highest quality of food
When your cat is eating, stroke him/her as long as he/she is okay with it
Here’s an article I wrote on How to feed a cat wet food while away – It’s a good read for those cat parents who work during the day
Last but not least, give your cat unconditional love and spend quality time together
Yes, it may take time and your cat may not reciprocate the same feeling
But don’t give up and continue to shower your cat with love and affection
Buy your cat toys, spoil them they deserve it
Most importantly learn to understand your cat
What their body language is saying to you
We can buy them toys and spend time
But do you know what’s more important?
Building that emotional connection
How do you do that?
Learn how you can actually talk to your cat
Check out my article – How to talk to your cat
Tell your cat how much you love him/her in a soothing voice
Cats understand us very well
This emotional connection will bring about so many benefits
It may take time and you will need to have patience
But trust me when your cat starts to show you unconditional love it will all be worth it
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