In this article you’re going to learn why your cat does not like to cuddle
It’s sad to know that your cat does not show that affection
He’s so cute and you just want to cuddle him but he won’t allow it!
In fact your cat just runs away from youÂ
The worst part?
Your friends cats allow cuddling except yours!
If you want to get your cat to become a cuddly cuddle bug then you’re going to love this article!
Your cat is not cuddly for now
There’s no need to worry
You see some cats have different personalities
Some cats don’t like to cuddle and need some encouragement
While other cats just love to cuddle straight away
Take my cat for example
His name is Tigger
I remember when I first got him
Boy, he was so scared! – He just did not want to come to me and would hide away
Fast forward 13 years and now he just loves to cuddle
You might thinking – Tigger has become affectionate with age
I’ll talk about if cats get more affection with age later on
Or you might be even thinking
Will I have to wait 13 years for my cat to become cuddly!Â
The good news is you don’t
Because I’m going to tell you how you can make your cat a cuddle bug
Carry on reading
Let’s get started!
DISCLOSURE: https://catloverhere.com/ is reader supported so if you buy any products featured on this site I may earn an affiliate commission. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Read my full disclosure here.
How Do I Make My Cat More Cuddly?
There are many ways to make your cat cuddly
Before we look at different ways
I want to emphasize on one thing
Time and Patience
This won’t be a overnight fix
It does take time
And it does require you to have patience
It might take weeks or months to make your cat a cuddle bug
But you know what the best part is?
It will all be worth it!
So let’s look at how you can make your little furbaby more cuddly
Pet Your Cat When She Is Sitting Down Calmly
When you notice your cat sitting down and is all relaxed
Sneak in a few pets
Your cat is relaxed and will enjoy these little pets
Don’t go overboard or anything
The worst time to pet your cat when she’s all hyper and wants to play
Catch her when she’s calm and sitting down and she’ll enjoy it
Pet Your Cat Before You Give Food
Right before you give your cat food give your cat a little pet
Not for too long because your cat is hungry and wants food!
The idea here is to get your cat to associate petting with getting food
Pet Your Cat When She’s Eating
Some cats hate being petted whilst they’re eating
So if you see any signs of your cat not enjoying being petted then you should stop
If your cat reacts a bit surprised or is being receptive then carry on doing so but gently and not in a way that will disturb your cat
This is to create a positive association with being petted when your cat is happy because cats love to eat their meal so that means they’re happy
Petting your cat when they’re happy will go a long way in getting your cat to love to being cuddled
Play With Your Cat
Sometimes cats won’t like to cuddle and be aggressive simply because they have all this energy that they want to burn
Playing with your cat will allow your baby to use up all that energy
After all they are predators so they need to hunt
Playing with your cat also builds a beautiful bond with your cat and that will only help get your cat to become a cuddle bug
You should set out a time during the day to just play with your cat
Trust me, your cat will appreciate it and will want to snuggle with you
Here’s an article I wrote on fun things to do with your catÂ
I recommend this pretty cool interactive toy in that article
I’m sure your cat will love it!
You can check it out over on Amazon by clicking hereÂ
Pet Your Cat When She’s Sleeping
The best time to pet your cat is when your cat is calm
And what better time is there other than when your cat is sleeping
If you notice your cat getting annoyed or is being disturbed then stop
Tigger loves to be tickled under the chin or behind the ear
He loves that!
Try it with your cat and see how she responds
This is a good way of getting your cat to snuggle with you and become more cuddly
Put Your Cat In Your Lap And Reward Her
Now we’re moving to an advanced level
Place your cat in your lap
And as soon as she’s there give a treat
Cats love treats and if you give your cat a treat whilst she’s in your lap it will create a positive association
Being in your lap means I get yummy treats!
This will hopefully lead to your cat wanting to sit in your lap
Because your cat will associate being in your lap with happy memories
Again if you notice your cat not wanting to be there then try again later on
But with a treat I’m certain your cat will stay!
My Tigger will do anything for a treat!
Surprise Your Cat With Random Treats
Give your cat treats randomly
See if you can buy those healthy dental treats
Something that is beneficial for your cat but is also tasty too
You can get plenty of healthy snacks
What you do is just randomly surprise your cat with treats
She will soon associate being around you with happy memories
By the time you know your cat will want to just sit in your lap
Remember it does take time and patience but it will all be worth it for sure!
If you have a kitten then you should definitely check out my article
Is It Bad To Force Your Cat To Cuddle?
Yes it is
Think about it
You’re going against your cats will
Instead of your cat becoming a cuddle bug they’ll distance themselves from you
Cats have different personalities
Some cats love to cuddle and other cats need love and affection shown to them
And then it takes time
Don’t force your cat or he might just end up scratching you or biting you
Your cat will come round
Just make sure you show your cat love and affection
Tell your cat how much you love them
You can check out my article
Do Cats Get More Affectionate With Age?
As cats get older they can either become emotionally distance or very clingy
My cat is not that old
He’s around 14 years old (I don’t know whether you call that old) but I do notice that he loves to cuddle more
He looks for an opportunity to sit in our laps just to chill
He used to do that when he was young but I notice it even more now
But then again every cat is different
So there is no right or wrong answer to this
Some cats may become more cuddly as they grow older whereas some cats may just want to keep themselves to themselves
How about your cat?
Is your cat more affectionate as he/she grew older?
Let me know in the comments
Are Male Cats More Affectionate?
There is no scientific evidence or any research that has taken place to say male cats are more affectionate
Each cats are different and they are unique in their own way
They have different personalities so you can’t just say male cats are more affectionate
Some cats may have had bad experience which leads them to not be cuddly and may take time
Whereas other cats have not had any bad experience so making them into a cuddle bug is much easier.
Why Your Cat Doesn’t Like To Cuddle
If your cat is not cuddly don’t panic
Your cat won’t stay not cuddly forever (If that makes sense)
You can make your cat a cuddle bug
Follow the steps and ideas in this article and hopefully with time your cat will want to cuddle with you
Remember it does take time and patience
Don’t force your cat to cuddle otherwise your cat may get scared of you
Give your cat space and time
Also, make sure to spend time with your furbaby
Play with your cat and always tell your cat how much you love her
One thing I forgot to mention is to talk to your cat
Communication is very key
We always talk about playing with our cats
But what about building an emotional connection through talking to your cat
Yes, cats can understand what we say to them
I actually have written an article on How to talk to your cat so make sure to check it out