I know it’s not the answer you don’t want to hear but your cat may run away from you simply because your kitty does not want to be pet, picked up, stroked or anything else that you may do when you approach your furbaby
The good news?
You can change this behavior and get your cat to become a cuddle bug or at least stay with you and not run away
Carry on reading..
The Worst Feeling Is, When Your Own Cat Won’t Stay With You & Always Runs Away From You
It’s upsetting right? I mean you love your Kitty so much but she keeps running away from you every time you want to pet her or just be with her
You start doubting yourself
“I’m I a good Cat parent?”
“Have I done something wrong?”
“Does my Cat just not like me?”
The answer to these questions are
You are a good Cat Parent (Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article)
You’ve done nothing wrong (But you could probably start doing things which will help your Cat stay with you)
You Cat does like you (It can take time if she’s new or just a Kitten)
So in this article we’ll go through different reasons why your Cat may be running away from you
I will show you different ways of how you can get your Cat to stay with you and build that bond with you which is pretty much the ultimate goal
So let’s dive straight in
Cats can become very unpredictable
One minute you are petting them and they cuddle with you
All of a sudden she’s running away from you
If your Cat is running away from you
There are different ways to stop them from running away from you
And staying with you
Here’s the best part
This article will help you build that strong connection with your Cat
It does take patience
And some positive reinforcements
Let’s get straight to it
Your Cat is most likely running away from you because they may not want to be pet, picked up or whatever your Cat thinks you might do that she will not like
I know this is the answer you don’t want to hear but we’re going to tackle this problem
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How Do You Get Your Cat To Stop Running Away From You?
You need to show your Cat that staying with you is something positive
You have to make sure you make it a positive experience every time your Cat is near you
The way to do this is
You can give your Cat a treat every time you call him
By doing this, your Cat will associate a good positive feeling when they are with you and will most likely stick around with you
Try and be consistent in doing this and show your Cat that being around you is cool and he gets a treat for it
Soon, he will just come for you but be prepared because he will want a treat!
Reward Your Cat
When your Cat starts to gradually stay with you, reward your Cat.
Again, with treats or just praise him or pet him.
Make your Cat feel positive around you
Always keep a low voice when praising as Cats can get scared with a loud voice
Cats love praises (Juts like us humans)
Stick Around Near Your Cat When They Are Busy
So what does this mean?
Let me explain
If your Cat is very jumpy and runs away every time you go near him then approach your Cat when they are distracted
When they are eating their dinner
Go stand next to your Cat and don’t make any sudden movements.
Stay still and just lurk around
Let your Cat know that it’s okay with you being around him
Do this often
Let your Cat get used to the fact that you are not a threat or there’s nothing to be scared about when you are around
You can repeat this process when they are taking a nap
If you see your Cat sleeping on the couch then just go near him and sit there or stand around by him
Your Cat may wake up and look at you, but if you are still then he will most likely go back to sleep
Just stay there for a minute or two and then leave
Do this often because your Cat will get the idea that you’re just going to stand there or sit there when you are close to them.
Your Cat will feel at ease because of this and will let you come close to him
You’ll get the idea that your Cat is used to you and trusts you because the hesitation from your Cat is not there anymore.
Once you’ve gained this trust with your Cat, you can now start to walk to him but slowly when they are just sitting there doing nothing.
Just walk up to your Cat
Stand there for a few minutes
Then just leave
Do this for a few times
Your Cat will then stop running away from you when you walk towards him
Once you’ve established that trust with your Cat when you walk towards them
Show your Cat that when you go to them something really nice is going to happen
And that’s where giving treats come in
Or rewarding them like I have mentioned earlier
Why Does My Cat Run Away From Me When Playing
My Tigger does this too
He’ll play for a little while and then just run away
I wouldn’t worry too much about it
It could be just a cat thing
Another possible reason could be your cat may just want to give himself a timeout and basically run away and wants his own space now
Or maybe your cat just got bored playing with the same toy
You can try a different toy and see if your cat wants to play again
Tigger goes crazy over a laser!
Make sure to be responsible when shining a laser – avoid getting it in your cats eyes
Another thing, let your cat catch the laser too!
Wrapping It Up
Don’t be too worried if your Cat runs away from you especially if your Cat is new to you
This is something that happens at the beginning
I remember when I first got my Cat, he would not come anywhere near me
No matter what I did he’d just stay away from me
But gradually as time went by my Cat got used to me and my family
And now he’s such a cuddly cat now
He’s a lap Cat now (Loves sleeping and chilling on our laps)
He’ll look for every opportunity
So the main thing is you just have to be patient
Show them some love and affection
How do you show them love?
You can check out my article on How do you tell your Cat you love them
They’re some great tips in this article and will really help you build that connection with your Cat
Work through them and show your Cat how much you love them!
Once you get your cat to stay beside you for a little while
Play with your cat
Do fun things together
Show your cat you’re a fun cat parent!
Here’s a article I wrote on different fun things to do with your cat
Fun things to do with your cat
I personally believe it’s important to understand our Cats
What they are saying
Why they are upset or happy
Or are they hungry
They’re family right so we need to treat them like our little babies
This is important to build that relationship with them
if you are dead serious on becoming the best Cat parent out there and you want to learn how to speak to your Cat and understand them, what they’re saying to us
Basically, you want to build that strong bond and connection
The I would really recommend checking out Cat Language Bible
This is a guide that teaches you everything you need to know on how to connect with your Cat
What I love about this guide is, you learn how to actually communicate with your Cat just how we communicate with our children
You’ll learn how to hold a actual conversation with them!
You’re probably thinking – How can you have a conversation with your Cat?
But you can and scientific research backs that up
There was research done on how Cats have evolved especially domestic Cats
They’ve learned to understand our words and what we’re saying to them
You can find out more about all this by clicking here
This guide is a must have for ALL Cat parents
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4 thoughts on “Why Does My Cat Run Away From Me – (Learn How You Can Get Your Cat To Stay With You)”
Great article and wonderful site! Thank goodnes I found you ?! Former ? owner current ? owner
I got my cat Lily 2 months ago. She is 3 years old and lived with a foster for those 3 years. She’s finally warmed up to me and my boyfriend. She sits with us every night after dinner and comes to bed with us. However she will run away everytime we stand up. Even if she was just cuddling with us and then we stand up she runs away. I don’t understand because she’s purring and licking our hands and then she acts like she doesn’t know who we are. I’m not even trying to pick her up. I’ll just be walking to the kitchen for something and she runs. Sometimes I’m standing in the kitchen cooking/cleaning or just standing still watching her watch me. She will try to sneak past me and as soon as she’s lined up with me she makes a mad dash away from me. It’s heartbreaking!
It’s still early days to be honest. It takes time to gain her trust.. Do you give her treats? And do you have toys? a cat tree? Keep showing her love and affecion. She’ll come round soon. Have a read of this article http://catloverhere.com/2018/12/08/how-to-show-your-cat-you-love-them/ Hope this helps!
These tips do work. I’m currently fostering a cat and have already tried some of these methods and it’s working! Treats and positive affirmations work!
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